Wednesday, September 12, 2007

What a Week!


*Photo of her third day, a tradition with all our kids (me and my Sisters) we all take photos on day three.

We have had the busiest week in a very long time. Not only are we experiencing so many firsts both with J and his new Sister but we are experiencing the emotional highs and lows of having had Opa here for two whole weeks and then all of a sudden he is gone home. Well, I guess it wasn't all of a sudden, we knew he would be leaving on Friday, but it doesn't ever sink in until he leaves.

Baby Girl is absolutely wonderful. I though J was a great baby, but I am amazed at how much better Baby Girl is. Her sleep patterns are pretty good, I have only really had one bad night so far. And she is sleeping in the bassinet, something J never did. She dozes on and off all morning, spends the afternoons awake and goes back to sleep for the night. Pretty great, I think. Car rides have been very easy. Her first shopping trip was to the shoe store for J's running shoes, but she has now been to the grocery store, Starbucks, and Indigo. She has had a playdate at my Sister's and today walked J to school. Not bad for a first week.

J continues to be wonderful with her. We had a few bad moments but that was mostly due to Opa leaving and him thinking that Mommy could play hockey the minute after the Baby arriving. I had to explain that, although I am doing really great I can't do sports yet (my legs just don't have all of their stregnth back yet). J insists on holding her at least once every day and one day when he forgot he was in tears at bedtime because he didn't get to hold her that day. I try to make sure he gets his chance at some point when she is wide awake.
And today was the first official day of school for J. He has a staggered entry so he went today, then not again until Monday, when he will go every single day for the rest of his childhood, minus the summers of course. I was doing great. Until... the teacher led him to the playstructure and he stopped, looked back and said, "I will wait right here." about fifty times. I knew right then that he was scared. He has never liked the idea of being locked out. If I am on one side of a baby gate and he is on the other, he will freak out. So I knew he wasn't doing to well, I could see his lip starting to tremble and that was it, the tears started rolling down my cheeks. So, I had to call out to him that it was OK, he could wait wherever he wanted. So he came back to the fence and talked to me until they went in. Where again, I could see the fear on his little face that and turned and called out, "Wait right there Mommy.". I cried all the way home.

As I was getting ready to leave and pick him up, Hubby called. I thought I had lots of time, apparently I was wrong. I was almost at the schoolyard when the other parents were walking back with their kids, so I picked up the pace as did my Mom who came with me. Well, there he was waiting by the wall for me. In all the times he was in Duffer Doo, not once did he have to wait for me. I was always the first or second Mom to be there. Now, his teacher probobly thinks I am always going to be late, and it broke my heart that I wasn't there when he came out. He won't talk about his first day, he won't tell us what he did, only that he had to leave his indoor shoes in the classroom. I hope I didn't traumatize him and for sure, I won't be late again. Ever.

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15 Comments:

Anonymous LVGurl said...

Oh, baby girl is darling! I love the first week, they are so sweet and sleepy.

So much of J's life has changed! He's a big brother, but also, he isn't the only child in the house. He'll probably be a little tender for a while, just keeping giving him all that love!

I felt pretty torn up about not being able to give Makenna as much of myself as I could before Paige was born. As you learn to balance the two children, everything will feel better, especially for J.

12:51 PM  
Blogger Kami said...

Oh... it's so hard to leave them when you know they are having a hard time with it. I am positive in no time at all he'll be running off to play as soon as you arrive at school. My Jack was like that too but he came around pretty quickly.

He's had some big changes and it will just take him some time to sort it all out:-)

I too have been a bit tardy on the pick up! They forgive:-)

1:10 PM  
Blogger 180/360 said...

I was running late to pick up Ava the other day and I was about to cry, too. Not only did I drive like a maniac to get there- I then sprinted in with Max in tow, only to find 6 other kids waiting patiently. I'm actually having a hard time getting used to this new schedule. And you get to do it all with a new baby! Glad things are going well with her though.

4:13 PM  
Blogger chichimama said...

Oh, how heartbreaking for you, but I am sure he won't remember it forever! I was late to A's first pick up too...

4:23 PM  
Blogger little miss mel said...

Congrats on surviving your first week, a big one at that!

She is just lovely!

Ugh, the heart strings at preschool. I'm gonna be such a sap when it happens to me. Hang in there!

4:49 PM  
Blogger Lee said...

Beautiful photos!

I'm sure J will recover just fine.

7:01 PM  
Blogger kate5kiwis said...

what a beautiful *little girl* photo, she looks such a darling X
loads of love to you all, there's been a whole heap of changes at your place, things will settle.
J might just be processing all the new-ness inwardly first before he wants to talk with you about it, do you think?? my eldest lad D18 has become more and more like that as he's grown older... he does talk about the *important stuff* when he's ready X

7:44 PM  
Blogger Laurie said...

The pic of J and Baby Girl is just adorable... I love the expression on his face!

i'm sorry you and J had some rough moments today... He's had some big changes in the last few weeks and I bet once he settles into the new routine, things will go more smoothly...

everything will get easier with time, I promise :)

((hugs))

7:50 PM  
Blogger nancy said...

LOTS going on in his little world these days. I am sure you will all adjust, but take your time, be patient and try to enjoy this exciting time in your lives.

I love all the pics, more please!

11:10 PM  
Blogger familymclean said...

Aww, your story with J made me cry, if I cried with that how will I manage with mine?!!!

1:31 AM  
Blogger Silver Creek Mom said...

HUGS... Sweetie. I'm sure Everyone was fine and WHO cares what the teacher thinks. She is not to judge PLUS You just had a baby...Give yourself a break.

Loveya

8:30 AM  
Blogger Karen MEG said...

Wow, you've (and your kids too) have done amazingly well adjusting to the "new family" dynamics! You're lucky that baby is so good-natured to let you focus on big brother a bit too.
You've got a newborn, honey, don't worry about people judging you - they aren't.
It is tough at first figuring out whether you're leaving enough time or energy for number one, but there is enough love in your heart for all your kids and it will show and they will feel it.

9:06 AM  
Blogger twinmomplusone said...

hugs sweetie

1:31 PM  
Anonymous snackmommy said...

What on earth could little Ivy being thinking so hard about in her picture, as she's only three days old. Oh, I know, she's wondering how she got so lucky :~)

9:12 AM  
Anonymous kailani said...

I read your post before this one so I know it wasn't your fault. Why would they let the kids out early and not tell the families? Just doesn't make sense! I would have some words with the administration.

10:40 PM  

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